I’m a male, so I’m gonna say right off the bat that I have no clue what a woman goes through on any level.
But I will admit that there are a million thing that men do that scares women…and sometimes guys don’t even realize they’re doing it.
So these responses will be very enlightening for all of us.
Women on AskReddit opened up about what men unknowingly do that scares them.
Let’s see what they had to say.
“Messages you on a dating app commenting on having found your profile and that they are in the same location as you, they can see you but you can’t see them.
I had a guy do this on a fully packed train I was on to go to work. I’m not an anxious person but it felt really uncomfortable.”
“Following you to your car to get your number.
Don’t. Ever. Do. That.”
3. Deal breaker.
“While talking online and I say “I don’t know about meeting up” and their response is “You are more likely to be r**ed by someone you actually know in person”
Yup… Not meeting up now.”
4. Too intense.
“Getting really intense about our relationship or friendship really early on.
A lot of guys turn women into this kind of fantasy thing that’s supposed to make them whole/help them change or whatever.
Sir I am the main character in my own life, not just a supporting one in yours.
When you put that pressure on me right away without reciprocation, I know that I don’t actually matter, you’ve been taught that women serve you”
“I’ve been approached several times in public by random men who say they want to be friends with me. One leaned in really close to have a conversation and asked me where I was from and where I live.
Another grabbed my hands and remarked on how soft my skin is. Another one literally locked arms with me and dragged me to a coffee shop to “get to know me” and then later told me to come with him to a more private place for a view of the city.
I weakly joke about it sometimes but in the moment it really does make me nervous. I don’t know if I just look really unimposing (I’m an Asian woman but I’m taller than average?) but I’m not sure why it happens.
Regardless, please don’t just grab random women, even out of friendliness, and respect personal space.”
6. Uncalled for.
“Blocking my path or physically holding me in place if they are not done talking to me.
Basically, using more strength/size to restrict my motion in any way.”
7. You can stop now.
“Calling them beautiful as much as possible.
Once or twice is nice, if you know them, but if you don’t know the guy and he says it too much it freaks me out.”
“I had a guy come into the store I worked at and leave within ten minutes.
Not even 5 minutes after he left, he had searched me up on Instagram and messaged me, as well as all other social media. He didn’t have my last name and literally sat in the parking lot to search me up and message me.
And then he came into the store a lot more to learn what shifts I worked and was ALWAYS THERE. That’s not endearing or cool, it’s creepy and makes me not want to go to work anymore.”
9. Hey, I’m a nice guy.
“Any time someone tries really hard to convince me he’s a “nice guy”. Every guy I’ve met that desperately brings it up every chance he gets isn’t usually very nice.
It always makes me wonder what are they trying to hide? Like why do I have to think you’re nice? Prove it with your actions, don’t tell me repeatedly.”
“Hit on you in locations where you cannot escape (enclosed places like elevators, or work places).
I had a taxi driver hit on me, question me about my love life and ask for my number. I was literally locked in a moving vehicle with the guy, how are you supposed to feel safe saying no?!
Luckily, I think he was just a nice clueless guy so I felt safe enough to negotiate and take his number instead of giving mine out.”
“Once I was staying in a hotel with my boyfriend and needed to go down to the lobby.
I got on the elevator and saw a guy holding flowers and wine, so I asked if he was meeting a girlfriend. I’m from the south, so it’s just friendly small talk. He replied, “Something like that. You can come if you want to.” It immediately made me nervous. Politely declined and said my boyfriend was waiting for me.
He said, “So to a guy like me, all I can hear you saying is that you’d come with me if he wasn’t here.” I was so upset. I didn’t take the elevator alone again.”
12. Not a good thing.
“Driving really aggressively and having road rage.
When I was younger and dating I had so many experiences as a passenger with young guys who were otherwise normal but really intense and scary when they got behind the wheel.
It always seemed like a red flag.”
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